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Do you ever have one of those weekends where you just want to draw the blinds, cozy up on the couch, and do nothing/see no one/go nowhere? As an introvert/recluse/misanthrope, I feel that way every
Below you will find a quick guide on how I prepare for my perfect stay at home weekend and why I look forward to spending time alone. Join the recluse revolution and stay home this weekend!
Sidenote: there is Stay Home Club (that's their lovely logo above) that makes the unofficial uniform of introverts everywhere! I need ALL their comfy shirts and sweatshirts (see below for their awesome "Awful" tee!)! Their rad clothing, prints, accessories, etc., really speak to my solitude-loving temperament. Any of their clothes would make the perfect loungewear for a lovely stay at home weekend!
I've recently been inspired by the lovely Mademoiselle Ghoul at Unquiet Things, who wrote about her own wonderful introvert weekend (which she has coined a “f*ck off, world” weekend). Her post was so dreamy that I decided to write about my own perfect "stay home alone" weekend. To borrow another term from Mlle. Ghoul, the ultimate goal is to become an "anti-social sloth" (this woman is after my own heart, I tell you!) and I couldn't agree more!
I am glad that there are others out there that enjoy the simple pleasures of a stay at home alone weekend. Even if you aren't an introvert, everyone needs time alone – to decompress, to think, to enjoy your own company, and to do whatever it is you enjoy doing.
My view from the couch.
Cozy, even if I don't have a real fireplace!
For the times that I like to indulge in my reclusive nature and have a stay at home alone weekend, I have a few loose guidelines to help maximize my "me" time:
- I like to have the house cleaned prior to the start of my slothful weekend. I definitely don't want to be doing any housework (or at least any heavy housework) while having a quiet weekend to myself. Also, if the house is dirty or in disarray I am unable to relax. Cleanliness is definitely an important preemptive task to complete prior to being able to enjoy a weekend at home.
- Got a pesky significant other or live with roommates? Tell them (lovingly) to leave you alone for the weekend. Or, lock yourself up in your room if you need to escape from others in your household. I'm lucky to live with someone that leaves me alone and has his own introvert tendencies, so I can usually find some alone time quite easily.
- Prepare a quiet area just for you. I like the living room, where I can sprawl on the couch and binge watch TV shows, read books, or catch up on posts on Tumblr or Pinterest.
- Set the mood by lighting candles or incense, choose soft or natural lighting to create an ambiance of relaxation. If it’s noisy outside, draw the blinds so you can shut out the world. Turn on your favorite music and tune out the outside world.
- Don’t answer the door, no matter who comes to bug you. Don't pick up the phone if you don't feel like it. Stay secluded in your fortress of solitude!
- Eat well. I like starting off my mornings with a simple breakfast, like hash browns, bagels, or tofu scramble and fresh-brewed coffee. Something hearty and nourishing that still doesn't take that much effort to prepare. The rest of the day I play by ear - sometimes I’ll feel like taking care of myself and make a healthy green juice, other times I’ll feel like pigging out on junk food and eat all the chips, cookies, and unhealthy snacks in the house! Either way, I do what I want and don’t feel bad about eating well. Pro-tip: Make sure to have all groceries on-hand prior to the weekend starting, so, duh, you don't have to leave the house.
Eat well, enjoy some vegan mac n cheese pizza like the one I made above!
Vegan Yack Attack has the recipe for you!
- Comfort is key, so go ahead and lounge in those pajamas or cozy robe all weekend. I like wrapping myself up in warm blankets during cooler months, and blasting the AC in warmer months. Make a comfy nest and snuggle in! Invite your pets to keep you cozy!
- Entertain yourself. I like to catch up on TV shows or movies on these hermit weekends. Sometimes I’ll let my Hulu queue fill up with a few episodes of a show just so I can binge watch it during a weekend. Or I’ll use the time to re-watch shows or movies on Netflix or from my DVD collection. On a recent hermit weekend I re-watched most of Twin Peaks and on another watched the last season of American Horror Story. If it’s close to a holiday like Halloween or Christmas and I have a rare weekend alone, I’ll try to watch seasonal-themed stuff. Don't feel guilty about lazing on the couch and watching whatever you feel like!
- Take naps. Is there anything better than taking a short nap in the middle of the day? My younger self would argue against this, but adult me loooooves mid-day naps now!
- Read. Pick up a paper, a magazine or a book and read at your leisure. While I love watching movies or shows, I also like to devote some time to reading. Some weekends I'll just browse through a few books, while other times I'll spend the whole weekend immersed in a novel.
- Make something. While most of the time I am content watching TV or reading a book, sometimes I feel creative and ambitious, which will lead me to write, draw, bake, or do something else hands-on, like building something or putting together a puzzle. So if you want, whip up something in the kitchen, paint something, create some music, anything you are into!
Mister Havoc likes to creep me company, and I don't mind sharing
my introvert weekend with him!
Here he is saying, "you mean we get to hang out ALL weekend?!"
- Enjoy the little things and quiet moments - a warm cup of coffee/tea, the way the sunlight dances on the wall, the smell of burning candles, the whisper from turning the pages of a book, a cat's purr; sometimes simple pleasures are the greatest treasures.
- Pamper yourself some more. Take a bath in clouds of bubbles, drench yourself in a sweet scent, try some DIY beauty treatments, wrap yourself in a luxurious robe and revel in your awesomeness. This weekend is all about self-indulgence!
If you can't spare a whole weekend to solitude, you can do any of these things in small chunks throughout the day, week, etc. If you are super-busy, make sure to carve out some alone time to relax and enjoy the little things you like doing! It could be as simple as spending 10 minutes browsing Pinterest or Tumblr, watching your favorite show or reading for a few minutes before bed.
Do you ever enjoy a stay at home weekend? How do you spend your alone time?
Viva la solitude!